From The Big Bang Theory:
Sheldon: Excuse me. This is not about protecting my friend. I’m a big fan of homeostasis. Do you know what that is?
Penny: Of course not!
Sheldon: Homeostasis refers to a system’s ability to regulate its internal environment and maintain a constant condition of properties like temperature or pH.
Penny: Worst bedtime story ever!
Sheldon: My point is, I don’t like when things change. So, regardless of your feelings, I would like you to continue dating Leonard. And also, while we’re on the subject, you recently changed your shampoo. I’m not comfortable with the new scent. Please stop this madness and go back to green apple.
I don’t like it when things change, either. Most of the stress, anxiety, and ultimately depression in my life is because things changed when I would have preferred they didn’t. Things are going to change, of course, and I have to remind myself that it’s only my reaction to change I have any real control over.
A sub-category of resisting change is Defining Things. It’s easy to look at something and say to myself, “I’ve seen this before, it’s one of these,” and once it’s labeled and defined it’s put into its box. Categorizing can help make sense of a confusing world, but it can also prevent us from appreciating something unique and wonderful on its own merits.
We’ve got to be careful.
“Our suffering is caused by holding on to how things might have been, should have been, could have been.” ~Stephen Levine