Tag Archives: change

Tiny Choices

“Take wrong turns. Talk to strangers. Open unmarked doors. And if you see a group of people in a field, go find out what they are doing. Do things without always knowing how they’ll turn out. You’re curious and smart and bored, and all you see is the choice between working hard and slacking off. …

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Secret

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” I try to verify quotes before posting them.  I saw this quote attributed to Socrates, which didn’t really ring true to me.  It only took a few minutes of digging to discover that this …

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Self-Care

This essay by Brianna Wiest points out that escaping from a miserable life should not be a substitute for changing it, that self-indulgence and self-care are not synonymous:   Self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing. It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and …

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Homeostasis

From The Big Bang Theory: Sheldon: Excuse me. This is not about protecting my friend. I’m a big fan of homeostasis. Do you know what that is? Penny: Of course not! Sheldon: Homeostasis refers to a system’s ability to regulate its internal environment and maintain a constant condition of properties like temperature or pH. Penny:  …

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Many Times

“The water in the stream may have changed many times, but the reflection of the moon and the stars remains the same.” ~Rumi

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Change

In 1955 John Wyndham published a novella titled The Chrysalids in the UK and Re-Birth in America.  It is not a religious text.  It is about post-apocalyptic mutants. But it’s also one of the best books about change– the inevitability of change and resistance to change– that I’ve read in a long time.  It really …

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Changes

Adolf Hitler wasn’t born evil, he became evil. He didn’t always want to be a dictator. When they left him alone, he wanted to be a painter. Then World War I happened. He was drafted and assigned the job of litter-bearer, and spent the next several years searching among anguished and mutilated bodies for the …

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MLK Day

When Malcom X returned from his pilgrimage to Mecca, he said basically, “You know what? I have met some new people, had some new experiences, and I have changed my mind.” That’s a very brave and rare thing for anyone, and unheard of for a public figure. Can you name another off the top of …

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Everything Changes

“Everything changes.” ~Shunryo Suzuki My Mom died three weeks ago, on the night of the 19th.  She was 82. I miss her. She was my closest friend. We talked daily. Many times the highlight of my day was sharing with her the things I’d seen and done, and hearing about her day. Everything she did, …

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Breakup, Loss, End…

“Any real change implies the breakup of the world as one has always known it, the loss of all that gave one an identity, the end of safety.”  ~James Baldwin

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It Mattered

“So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better (which it will) or that there are worse things in the world (which there are). But that’s not what I actually needed. “What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that …

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Ch-ch-ch-changes

Advice Mary Astor received from her therapist: Living is change. Your past will always be part of you– it is in your mind, in your memory– but with understanding and education it need not affect what you are today, or what you will be in the future. Excerpted from her autobiography My Story, ©1959

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