Tag Archives: grief

I guess

“I guess by now I should know enough about loss to realize that you never really stop missing someone-– you just learn to live around the huge gaping hole of their absence.” ~Alyson Noel

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Sam

Even anonymously, behind the shield of a url, it’s hard for me to open up.  I intended for this blog to be a lot more personal, but it ends up being book excerpts and favorite quotes. My wife Mona writes much more from the heart, and I thought she did a good job talking about …

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Grief

I can’t make the BBC embed code work with WordPress, but here’s the link:  LINK If you have eight minutes, it’s a really helpful little video.

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I can’t be funny.

This is an excerpt of a letter Will Rogers wrote about the death and funeral of his sister Maude sometime in the early 1920s.  The sadness is compounded because the poor man felt he had to hide from his public persona. From Will Rogers: His Story As Told By His Wife, by Betty Rogers, © …

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Silence

“When you drop a glass or a plate to the ground, it makes a loud crashing sound. When a window shatters, a table leg breaks, or when a picture falls off the wall, it makes a noise. But as for your heart, when that breaks, it’s completely silent. You would think that for something so …

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Paisley

Grief is a weird thing. It can hit you out of nowhere. I was in Stein Mart last week and found a wonderful paisley shirt, and as I was heading towards the checkout it suddenly hit me that the only other person who would be as excited about this shirt as I was would have …

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While the silence

My Friends Don’t Get Buried Edward Hirsch My friends don’t get buried in cemeteries anymore, their wives can’t stand the sadness of funerals, the spectacle of wreaths and prayers, tear-soaked speeches delivered from the altar, all those lies and encomiums, the suffocating smell of flowers filling everything. No more undertakers in black suits clutching handkerchiefs, …

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Living in the Maha-Mantra

They say there are no atheists in foxholes, but that hasn’t been my experience. My moments of loss and fear are the times I feel most alone. I’ve read more religious texts than most, from all the major religions and quite a few of the minor ones, and they’ve helped make me a better person, …

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That Time Obama Consoled Dave McKenna

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It Mattered

“So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better (which it will) or that there are worse things in the world (which there are). But that’s not what I actually needed. “What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that …

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