Tag Archives: grief

Paisley

Grief is a weird thing. It can hit you out of nowhere. I was in Stein Mart last week and found a wonderful paisley shirt, and as I was heading towards the checkout it suddenly hit me that the only other person who would be as excited about this shirt as I was would have …

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While the silence

My Friends Don’t Get Buried Edward Hirsch My friends don’t get buried in cemeteries anymore, their wives can’t stand the sadness of funerals, the spectacle of wreaths and prayers, tear-soaked speeches delivered from the altar, all those lies and encomiums, the suffocating smell of flowers filling everything. No more undertakers in black suits clutching handkerchiefs, …

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Living in the Maha-Mantra

They say there are no atheists in foxholes, but that hasn’t been my experience. My moments of loss and fear are the times I feel most alone. I’ve read more religious texts than most, from all the major religions and quite a few of the minor ones, and they’ve helped make me a better person, …

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That Time Obama Consoled Dave McKenna

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It Mattered

“So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better (which it will) or that there are worse things in the world (which there are). But that’s not what I actually needed. “What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that …

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“I can forgive them…”

Excerpt from Lake Wobegon Days by Garrison Keillor, ©1985

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Given Back

Excerpted from The Holy Man by Susan Trott ©1995: Chapter 8:  Grieving Man “I have lost my wife,”  he told Joe (the Holy Man) when Joe invited him to sit down.  “She has been taken from me.  She is gone.  I loved her so much.  Now I will never see her again.” “Did she die?” …

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I’ll see you on the other side

Our culture doesn’t accept death gracefully. Dylan Thomas famously advised: Do not go gentle into that good night. Rage, rage against the dying of the light. Death notices frequently contain the phrase “lost his fight,” as if death were a defeat, a moral failure of some sort. I watched our friend and neighbor being loaded …

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Roles

Our neighbor across the street is dying.  She was told she had two to three months to live, and it’s been two. Today, as her time is drawing to a close, there was a lot of activity at her house. The difference in genders was striking.. The women popped out of the cars, bouquets in …

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Good Grief

The Huffington Post has an article titled If There Were Greeting Cards for Grief, and this is one of them. You can see the others HERE.  They’re very poignant and well done.

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